By: Virginia
Iversen
The Four
Gateways of Speech are four questions that come from the Sufi tradition. These
four contemplative questions help to determine the merit of a conversation prior
to engaging in the conversation. The Four Gateways of Speech are: Is it True?
Is it Kind? Is it Necessary? Is my Timing Appropriate? By contemplating these
questions prior to engaging in a conversation, especially a difficult
conversation, you will be able to more clearly ascertain the situation at hand,
your own preconceptions about the other person and his or her
underlying motives, as well as the ultimate effect of the conversation on
both of you.
As Yogis and
Yoginis, we are all striving for greater physical well-being and mental health.
Many of us also long for a deep understanding of the divine, in addition to a
sense of unification with the divine energy. By choosing to only engage
in conversations that are true, kind, appropriate and necessary, we limit
negative interactions. We will also be more able to step away from downward
spiraling negative conversations and contracted states of being. Physical and
mental contraction diminishes our energy, creativity and well-being.
Take the example
of submitting a class proposal to the director of the Yoga studio where you
teach. You are very excited about introducing a new style of Yoga to the
students at the studio. Surprisingly, you do not hear anything back from the
director of the studio, but to your dismay you find out in a few weeks that the
class you proposed is on the schedule and is slated to be taught by another
teacher! You feel thoroughly demoralized and betrayed.
According to
the Four Gateways of Speech, it is imperative in this situation to pause long
enough to determine if your timing is appropriate before you approach the
director of the studio. In business, this is absolutely critical to your
success as a Yoga instructor. Imagine the director’s response if you approach
him or her just prior to teaching a class when there are a number of students
within hearing distance.
Not only will
the director being uncomfortable with the students listening to the
conversation, he or she will most likely also be angry that you have raised a
difficult issue just prior to teaching a class, and in doing so throwing him or
her completely off-center. Your chances of a successful, uplifting and
productive conversation are much better if you find a quiet time in a private
space to approach such a sticky issue with diplomacy, an open mind and a
respectful attitude.
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2016 – Virginia Iversen / Aura Wellness Center – Publications Division
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